God made everyone different. Nobody's perfect. We must learn to live with each other and accept each other warts and all. There are times we must be tolerant. There are times we must lay our cards on the table and get it straight, communicate, debate. But this must be done with the understanding from both parties that the ultimate goal for letting it all out is for better understanding and acceptance.
Name-calling, tantrums, unreasonable accusations, irrational actions would only hurt and not achieve anything positive. When one party is hurt, especially unfairly, the tendency is to react 'an eye for an eye'. It requires great effort, love and generosity to forgive. It requires humility, love and courage to ask for forgiveness. Egos must be set aside. Constructive feedback should be taken positively and viewed objectively, not emotionally. Critique should be given fairly, unemotionally, constructively, with relevant knowledge and not hearsay, biased opinion or assumptions. We must build, not destroy.
For what is life if it is always lived in anger, hatred and bitterness? It is a life with poison within your heart that pumps through your arteries and veins. Lava from an angry volcano destroys all in its path. A tree with poisonous roots bears poisonous fruits.
1 Cor. 13
Love is patient, love is kind.
It does not envy, it does not boast,
it is not proud. It is not rude,
it is not self seeking, it is not easily angered,
it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil
but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes
Love never fails. But where there are
prophecies, they will cease; where there
are tongues, they will be stilled;
where there is knowledge, it will come to pass away.
For we know in part and we prophesy in part,
but when perfection comes,
the imperfect disappears.
When I was a child, I talked like a child,
I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child.
When I became a man, I put childish ways
behind me. Now we see but a poor reflection;
then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part;
then I shall know fully, even as I am full known.
And now these three remain: faith, hope and love.
But the greatest of these is love.
by Beth Fagan Quinn
Faith begins by believing
in your heart that what is right
has a chance.
Faith is knowing in your heart
that good can overcome evil,
that the sun can shine
in a rainstorm.
Faith is peaceful
and comforting, because it
comes from within
where no one can invade
your private dreams.
Faith is not something
you can demand or command;
it is a result of commitment to belief.
Faith is believing in something
you can't see or hear,
something deep inside
that only you understand
Faith is trusting in yourself
enough to know that no matter
how things turn out,
you will make
the best of them.
Hope is not the closing of your eyes
to the difficulty, the risk,
or the failure.
It is a trust that ...
If I fail now...
I shall not fail forever;
and if I am hurt,
I shall be healed.
It is a trust that
life is good,
love is powerful,
and the future is full of promise.